Then here are some questions to discuss:
Let’s laugh a little! Tell us about one of your first dates, or a story that happened to someone you know. Tell us about any mistakes or surprises you have had (or they had).
How important is a first impression to you? Do you give a second chance to someone who would have been terrible on a first date, or do you make your decision on the first meeting? (“It’s now or never!”)
You found a beautiful girl at church (or at a conference, activity, at work, on the Internet) and you would like to take her on a date. How do you invite her? And can it be the other way around … can a woman invite a man over for coffee to get to know him?
In our video we offer 7 tips. The first is: “talk about it with God”. Before having our first date, it’s good to pray. Pray to ask what, exactly, from God?
The second tip is to choose a familiar place, but not too much. It is always recommended to go to a public place, why do you think? And why is it better not to go to a place where everyone knows you (like at church)?
The third tip is to avoid distractions. What do you think of cell phones during first dates? Shall we take pictures or not? Social media or not?
The fourth tip is to go on a date alone: do not go on a first date with a friend (or worse with our mother!). Why do you think it is better to have this one-on-one date (but in a public place, of course)? What can we do to protect ourselves without having a “bodyguard” with us?
The fifth tip is to choose our clothing. Should we put ourselves at our best or should we show who we are on a daily basis? What is good to do, and bad to do, in the dress code on the first date?
The sixth tip is that everyone should pay their bill at the first date. Not everyone agrees with this advice. And you, what do you think?
Finally, the last piece of advice is to have fun, to be happy (Philippians 4:4) no matter what happens. If the date went well, what do we do next: who calls whom to schedule a second date? And if the date didn’t go well, how do we tell the other person that you aren’t interested in a second date?
Remember, you don’t plan a wedding on the first date. Be relaxed and remember that you are only there to see if that person could be a good friend. Our goal is to start a friendship, because if we are going to marry our best friend, we have to start this friendship somewhere!
Some prayer points to conclude:
Pray that the singles in your group will have a date soon;
Pray for peace… and joy in these first dates
… And of course, please pray for Passion374! Thank you!
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