Sexual sin, particularly pornography use, is a pervasive struggle for many christians. Despite the promises of freedom in Christ, individuals often face significant barriers that prevent them from seeking help.
To be free from sexual sin, it is important to take an honest look at why we don’t seek the help we actually need.
Shame and Fear of Judgment Shame often drives people to hide their sin rather than bring it into the light. The fear of being judged or rejected by others, even within the church, can feel overwhelming. This barrier is deeply rooted in a misunderstanding of God’s grace and the gospel’s power to transform (1 John 1:9, Romans 8:1). God’s Word assures us that confession leads to forgiveness and cleansing, not condemnation. When we fear judgment from others, we must remember that God’s verdict in Christ is final: forgiven and loved.
Pride and Self-Reliance Many individuals resist seeking help because they believe they can handle their struggles on their own. Pride tells them that admitting weakness is a sign of failure, and self-reliance convinces them that they don’t need others to overcome sin. The Bible repeatedly calls believers to humble themselves and seek community for accountability and encouragement (James 4:6, Galatians 6:2). Pride isolates, but humility invites God’s grace and the support of His people. “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the LORD, and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your flesh and refreshment to your bones” (Proverbs 3:5-8 ESV)
Lack of Faith in God’s Power to Transform For many, repeated failures in fighting sexual sin lead to despair. They begin to believe that change is impossible, doubting God’s ability to free them from the cycle of sin. This lack of faith diminishes their willingness to seek help, as they see their situation as hopeless. The gospel promises not just forgiveness but transformation (Romans 6:14). Sanctification is a lifelong process, and God is faithful to complete the work He begins in His people (Philippians 1:6).
Practical Steps to Overcome These Barriers
Confess and Believe the Gospel: Meditate on the truths of God’s grace and forgiveness. Confession is not about earning God’s favor but receiving the freedom He offers through Christ.
Seek Accountability in the Church: Surround yourself with mature believers who will encourage you, pray for you, and hold you accountable in love.
Trust in God’s Faithfulness: Rely on His promises to sanctify and sustain you. Change is possible because of Christ’s victory over sin.
If you’re struggling with sexual sin, don’t let shame, pride, or despair keep you from seeking help. Jesus invites you to come to Him as you are: “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28, ESV). The church is not a gathering of perfect people but a family of redeemed sinners walking together toward Christ. Bring your struggle into the light, trust in God’s transforming grace, and step into the freedom He has won for you.
© 2025 Biblical Living Center. Originally published on the BLC website in English as “Breaking the Barriers: Overcoming Obstacles to Seeking Help for Sexual Sin” by Brian Alton. Summarized, translated and published with permission.