Women, this week it’s your turn! Wouldn’t you love to be noticed by a single Christian guy, but do you have what they are looking for? What are the main things that men desire? It would be wise to discover them!
As we said last week, we did a survey of a few singles to find out what they were looking for in the opposite sex. We then regrouped their answers we found some common answer. In the last article, we revealed to men what women were looking for, and this week we will do the opposite.
Obviously, every man is different and our survey was not scientific. On the other hand, the points in common were always confirmed by a passage in the Bible. So we thought our conclusions were fairly accurate and worth sharing. If you are a single woman and you want to get married, it is better to consider these qualities, because there is still time for you to develop them.
A Christian single man is looking for a woman who loves God
A man who listens to the Holy Spirit and has a desire to serve God with his family is looking for a woman who will have the same passion. He is seeking a woman who will encourage him, mirroring his own devotion to get closer to God. The faith of a woman is inspiring, even for unbelievers (1 Peter 3:1-2), so imagine how it would help a man who wants to devote his life to God. If you want to stand beside a man of faith, you must be a woman of faith too.
He seeks a woman who takes care of herself
Men are attracted to beautiful women. But that does not mean that they are only looking for supermodels posing in magazines! Most men are willing to accept a little extra weight, for example, as long as the woman is able to present herself at her best. In other words, no matter the size, he wants to be proud to be by her side. “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband” (Proverbs 12:4a KJV).
The man knows that he will have to take care of his wife and when he looks for a woman, so he checks the cost of taking care of her. If she has bad self-esteem or is always sad and negative, he will wonder if she is always like that, and he may find the price too high to pay. If the woman spends a fortune to be beautiful, the man will look at his bank account and wonder if he will be able to endure this habit. For some, it will be a turn-off. “ As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion” (Proverbs 11:22 KJV).
Consciously or not, the man hopes that his wife will take care of him too and for their whole life together. That’s why he will have a preference for a woman who cares for herself and her health.
Finally, men’s hormones make them think a lot about sex. But a man of God knows his priorities, and he prefers a woman to dress modestly. Too much cleavage will not attract men who fear the Lord, on the contrary, they are even taught to flee it! Deep down, they prefer a woman who has not been in the bed of many other men.
Men want a smart woman
Once again, when thinking about the “long term”, men prefer women who can find good solutions to the problems of life. For a one-night adventure, non-Christian men may adhere to the phrase “be beautiful but shut up”, but for men of God who are thinking about marriage, a smart woman is much more attractive.
The first woman was created to be a helper (Genesis 2:18), the first counselor, of her husband. If he has an ambitious vision for his future, he will look for a wise counselor. “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness” (Proverbs 31:26 KJV). And this has nothing to do with schooling. Divine wisdom and resourcefulness are two qualities that are acquired freely, inspired by the Holy Spirit.
Although most men love to be the providers of their families, they definitely prefer a woman who knows the value of money and is willing to work for the financial success of the family as well.
Men seek respect
“Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband” (Ephesians 5:33 NASB). A woman is seeking love, hugs, gifts, everything that makes her feel unique. For a man, feeling respected is one of the best signs of affection. They want a woman who will be proud of them and that will not laugh at him, especially not in public! He does not want to be constantly criticized and be told what to do. He seeks a woman who will trust him and who is ready to follow him in his vision. This is a quality that he will quickly detect while dating. A wise man is ready to listen to his girlfriend’s questions or doubts, but if he has healthy self-esteem, he will not stay with a woman who wants to control everything.
Women, if you want to know what men are looking for, spend time with them! Too often, women stay together and have “girls night out”. But have a mixed group of friends. After all, we are a big family in Christ, and they are your brothers. Get to know them and you will realize that you may have some adjustments to make if you do not want to stay a princess locked in your tall tower!