Showing ample cleavage or lots of money will surely attract attention, but perhaps not the right attention. What should we do, as Christians, to attract the attention of God AND a potential match?
To find the answer to this question, we must go back as far as Abraham. In Genesis 12.3 (WEB) God made this promise: “I will bless them who bless you and curse him who curses you, and in you, all families of the earth will be blessed.” God’s plan for his children has always been for us to be a blessing. Yes, we will be blessed, but we have been called to be a blessing.
We all have needs. We want to be loved; we need to talk, to be taken care of. People who do not have God must depend on an “arm of flesh” of a human being, to meet their needs. But depending on others always leads to problems. Jeremiah 17.5-8 even says that it can turn into a curse. Relying on men often pushes us to conform to the world to obtain approval. And of course, this is not God’s plan for us, as Romans 12.1 says.
God wants to provide Himself with all our needs. This is what Paul promised in Philippians 4:19 (WEB): “But my God shall supply your every need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.” Obviously, we must put this verse in context. Paul says here that God will meet all the needs of the Philippians, who are the recipients of that letter. Why them? It’s because they had first been very generous to Paul. “Even in Thessalonica, you sent aid once and again for my necessity,” (Phil. 4.16 WEB) God wants us to be a blessing to others. In doing so, we remain in his plan, and in his presence, we have everything we need.
In this world, we usually start by receiving. Just think of babies. When they are born, they spend months (years!) only receiving. Growing up, they slowly learn to give. Now with God, it’s the opposite. God wants us to start with giving. Luke 6:38 (WEB): “Give, and it will be given to you: Good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over will men give unto you. For with the measure you use, it will be measured unto you.”
So what is the connection with the being single? “I want a husband, what do you want me to give?”, You might say. Well, think about it: why are you looking for a partner?
To have someone to talk to? God wants to fill that need. He longs to have a conversation, which means that He will listen and He will speak to you.
- To receive affection? Get close enough to God that you will feel his support and embrace.
- To be protected? Be complimented? Be sustained financially? God can do all this!
- For sex? Ah, that I confess, God cannot give you sex. Sexual desire is carnal, and God is not carnal. But you know, this is not a need, it’s a simple desire. God is not against this desire, but it must be within the bonds of marriage. (Why? Read this other article)
If God fills all of us, we become an attractive person, someone easy going. Who does not want a friend (or girlfriend!) that is a blessing and doesn’t need continuous support? God’s plan for his people has always been that we should be a blessing to others. He wants us to be so filled with Him, that we will overflow our happiness on others (Psalm 23.5, John 10:10).