The beginning of a new year often comes with resolutions. We will lose a few kilos, pay our debts and find a… partner? We cannot force love, but we can take some steps to say goodbye to being single.

I wrote about my friend “Cupcake” in a previous article, to congratulate her on her engagement to a charming young man. I discussed this wonderful event with another single friend of mine (I call her “Renamed”). I told her that the fiance of Cupcake corresponded with what I had asked God for her. “Renamed” asked me : “And what are you asking God for me?” I replied without hesitation: “Nothing. You told me you’re not looking for anyone, so I have not been praying for you about that.”

Her face changed; she was visibly disappointed. Often singles believe that only the desperate and obsessive persons are looking for a partner. I know, I was one of them. We don’t want to show anyone that we want a husband or wife; we don’t want people to think that we feel incomplete because we are still single, because we aren’t. I have often heard: “I am 100% happy with God. If He wants me to find a partner, great, but I am not looking”. As if to admit our desire to get married is synonymous with we are unhappy, but the two states are not related at all. When we have to select our social status on a form, there are more than two boxes: married or unhappy. We can be single and perfectly happy, and still desire to share our happiness with a husband or wife.

It’s true that some single people are hunting for love to the point that they become annoying and even repulsive. We obviously don’t want to be associated with them. When we talk about seeking out a partner, we are not talking about this extreme attitude. There is a middle ground between obsession and total passivity.

So in 2016, let’s not hide behind false humility. There is nothing wrong or degrading to admit that we want to meet someone this year. To see this dream realized, there are steps that we can do without falling into an obsessive quest, and without neglecting our dependence on God. We have already published some articles on this subject, and we will give several ideas during our breakfast workshop on 23 January (in french).

No matter what your social status is at this point, or what it will be at the end of 2016, Passion374 wholeheartedly wishes you a year filled with happiness and God’s presence.