Many singles believe that by changing their marital status, they will no longer feel alone. However loneliness can affect married people the same as single people, and this feeling isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
The definition of loneliness is simple: to be alone. Some people quote Genesis 2:18 when justifying their need to find a life partner. The verse says : “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” (NIV) We always have to look at the context of the verse, and here, God was in the process of creation. This verse doesn’t talk about marriage, but simply about “species”. It was not good for the human race to be represented by only one person. God created a partner to allow multiplication. In the context of reproduction, it’s actually necessary to be two, and in the Garden of Eden, the procreation of the human race was the main goal.
God never commanded all humans beings to get married. If He had commanded that, it would mean that Jesus was disobedient! That doesn’t make sense. So even when we’re single, if God is our Shepherd, then we won’t lack anything.
Some use the passage in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, which suggests that when you are two, you are stronger. Again, this passage does not refer to marriage. Several Bible commentaries indicate that the author simply talked about collaboration between two people. At that time, walking alone was very dangerous; Thieves, lions, or other attacks were common. Also regarding the work in the fields, it was customary to help your neighbor at harvest time.
“Where a married woman is going through something, she can talk to her husband. I can’t talk to anyone”, a single woman once told me. That is false! That is what friends and family are for. Now, what do you do when all your calls go to voicemail? Smile. God finally found a way to catch you, to have a time alone with Him without distractions.
Loneliness is a mirage. It doesn’t exist because God is always with you (Matthew 28:20). It’s a mirage that the enemy will try to put in your life again when you start talking to your spouse, and they start snoring into their pillow. Don’t try to avoid these times alone. Jesus took time alone deliberately to get closer to God.
Refuse the sadness that the enemy wants to give you when you feel alone. Break the silence by contacting your family or friends, or better yet, take advantage of this quiet moment to snuggle up in the arms of God and listen to His voice.