Many people are looking for a partner that will accept them as they are. Which is good, we should not change ourselves in an attempt to please others and masks are prohibited. But that doesn’t mean we can’t grow and correct our character flaws. In the end, you will reap what you sow.

A young woman in her late thirties asked us for advice. She was still single and did not understand why. However, this woman was kind of scary. “I have a bad temper and I’m aggressive. I’m just like that, it’s my nature,” she told us. So the only men who dared to approach her were violent men, and it’s no wonder. Simply put a gentle man does not fit well with an angry woman. In fact, he won’t even approach such a woman.

In her dreams, she wanted to marry a man of God, a man involved with the church. She wanted to serve the Lord by his side. A good dream, but when we imagine what a man like that would look like. Do we see an angry and aggressive woman at his side? No. If this young woman really wants to marry a man like that, she will need to make some changes to her character. She will need to grow before even meeting him since she probably won’t meet that kind of man unless she changes.

Anger and aggression don’t have to completely disappear. A small dose of these, against the devil, is a good thing to have as a spiritual warrior. However, these two points shouldn’t be the central part of someone seeking a partner that is gentle and sensitive to the Holy Spirit.

As in many areas of your life, you will attract what you project. If you want different results in your love life, perhaps it’s time to look at yourself in the mirror and make some improvements. You won’t go wrong by developing the character of Christ.