When we’re single, we often dream about the person we will marry. Sometimes we ask God for a person that is like this or like that. We wonder how God is going to introduce them

to us, and especially when. Thanks to Hollywood, we often have an idealistic vision of that famous meeting, and especially of that special person.

God knows that if we get married, we will be married to that person forever (unless a tragedy happens, but let’s not talk about that). God also knows who this person will be. But did God create that specific person as your future spouse? A beautiful song says, “When God created you, He must have been thinking about me,” implying that your partner is a perfect match. It is a beautiful romantic song, but … it’s not biblical.

There is nowhere in the Bible that says God spoke to a man and told him he must marry a specific woman. God tells the Israelites not to marry foreigners, and some fathers like Abraham, ask for girls of a specific clan or family for their sons, but that’s all. Nowhere in history has God appointed a specific woman to a man. Besides Adam and Eve of course, but let’s just say that there were limited choices!

Why? Maybe what matters to God is that we choose someone that is Godly, with whom we can extend His kingdom. What matters to God is that the husband will serve and protect his wife, and the wife will serve and support her husband.

There isn’t just one person on Earth appointed for you. The idea of a soul-mate is not biblical. It is based on Greek mythology. And that’s good news! It means that you don’t have to break your head to find the perfect someone. There are only a few essential criteria for God, and if you follow these criteria, you can’t go wrong! You won’t say after 30 years of marriage: “I married the wrong person.” since there isn’t one specific person on Earth for you, you can’t miss your shot.

The person you marry will not be perfect (and neither are you). But if you have the same goal, to grow His kingdom, have the same passions, and desire to serve each other, you will remain married until death do you part. Don’t stress trying to find your soul-mate … it doesn’t exist!