Most of the influential people in our churches are married. Same thing in the secular world. So it’s easy to think that we need to be married to have an impact,
to make a significant difference, in our world. But when we think this way, we place ourselves in a waiting position that is frustrating and unproductive. Our blooming is then conditional, and we obsess over the pursuit of our soul mate.
Why wait? As the saying goes it only takes one drop of water to overflow a river. With one dollar, you can pass from a millionaire to a billionaire. Just one inch will earn an athlete the gold medal, and another silver. You just need to be one more person to have a majority in a meeting. It’s not because you are single that you cannot make the difference in a situation.
The greatest encounters with God recorded in the Bible, happened in a moment of loneliness. Jacob and his ladder, Moses, and the burning bush. It’s true that they were married men when they had their experiences, but they were alone when it happened. Take David, if you prefer : he wrote his famous Psalm 23 when he was alone and single. Paul was a widow when he wrote two-thirds of the New Testament. Daniel, Jeremiah, and Jesus of course, all made a significant mark in history while they were single.
Being single is not a time to wait and put your life on hold, it’s only a social status. It has nothing to do with your potential success. You can make a difference in the state you are in, right now. If you give your life to Jesus, He will use it immediately in a significant way to build up His Kingdom. In the end, married or not, it’s the impact we will have on His Kingdom that will really matter.
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